The Power of Listening

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The absolute best way to be listened to is by a receptive listener. This means the person is not only listening to your words but they are listening to your feelings, observing your expression and body language and waiting with a quiet mind to respond.

If you have the gift of someone listening deeply to you it will feel very respectful and affirming of you as a person.  People feel accepted and heard.

A submissive listener is basically allowing the other person to speak, perhaps listening to the words but they may all ready be preparing a response before you have finished speaking.  They may not be accepting of your particular way of describing or explaining a situation.  They may want you to cut out all the details.  However, each person has their own experience to describe and they do so in their own way which deserves respect and attention in order to fully understand.

Like any other life skill it takes practice to become a competent, compassionate listener.  One important skills is to suspend judgement of anything until the other person has completed what they have to say.  This of course is most difficult in a conflict or disagreement but the rewards  from becoming a quiet listener are greater clarity, understanding and an improved relationship.

Being listened to in a competent and compassionate matter builds trust and develops a climate for healing.

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